August 8, 2003-August 8, 2013
Wow, ten years...
So much has changed in the past 10 years.
We went from a family of 2 to a family of 5 (plus Paris our boxer).
We moved from our town house in Old Bridge to a real house in Aberdeen.
I went from teaching in a classroom to teaching in my home.
John went from owning a taekwondo school to becoming a Financial Advisor for Wealth Management at Morgan Stanley.
We went from going out every weekend with friends and family to the movies, museums, and the city, to raising a family and having back yard picnics and eating Popsicles near the kiddie pool.
God has continued to bless us and use us in ministry to serving overseas on a missions trip to having a missional community in our own home.
I can't tell you how many times at night John and I lay in bed and look up at the ceiling and say, "Who would have thought we would have 3 kids???" I mean, we met in high school in homeroom class, who would've thought that we would end up together, forever, with a family?
Isn't it neat to look back and see how God blessed your life, and used circumstances to grow you closer together, to lean on Him more, to stretch you as individuals?
Zechariah 4:10 says...Do not despise these small beginnings, for the LORD rejoices to see the work begin,
Philippians 1: 6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carryit on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. ...
It also makes me think why has our marriage lasted and stayed strong these past 10 years...we are not perfect people. We have our ups and downs. Why has God allowed us to have this love that just seems to grow stronger and stronger?
First of all, God gets all the glory. We couldn't do it without Him. Not one day. He is so good and so faithful. I know I say that a lot on my blog but it is SO true. I think back to the days when doing my devotions every morning was easy. When praying together at night as a couple was easy. When feeling close to the Lord was all the time. Now, as a mom of three, I feel so tired and stretched and I say, Lord, how can I fit all this into my day? When do I find time to pray, to sit and read the Bible, to pray with John like we used to. Help us!
And He does. That's the great thing about a relationship. You can talk things out. I can be honest with myself and with God and say, I know I can do better, help me to make this a priority. And he does.
I think the only reason we have stayed so close as a couple is because of God's goodness and because of our determination to keep Christ at the center of our marriage. There are a few non negotiables with us.
Number 1: Divorce is not an option. Number 2 John is the head of our family (Praise God for that) Number 3 We both realize that God is the head of our family and He is our priority. We seek God's will before establishing what we want.Number 4: We make going to church a priority because we want to be accountable to other christians, we want to keep growing in Christ and we want to set a good example before our kids.