29 June 2010

The Five Love Languages: Part 2 Quality Time

Part 2: Quality Time

My favorite, favorite love language is Quality Time!

This is a picture of me and my honey spending quality time in Cape May in 2006. We were celebrating 3 wonderful years of marriage at the Queen Victoria Bed and Breakfast. Cape May is a favorite spot of mine because it is near the ocean, you can watch the sunrise and sunset, you can walk the boardwalk, you can walk slowly, you can talk face to face, you can hold hands and stroll near the shops. You can work on your tan...oops! (Poor John can't do that) Just spending time together and enjoying the other person's company and undivided attention is so important.

Quality Time means no interruptions.

Quality Time means listening with your whole body. By that I mean, your eyes are looking at the person's eyes, your hands are not busy working, your feet are not busy walking around, you are still. Your ears are obviously listening and you are listening with every ounce of energy you have. I don't know about you, but I can tell when someone is really listening to me, or is too busy to listen but is pretending to, or has other things on their mind, or would rather be doing something else.

It means no phones, no computers, no television, no work. In this day and age that is hard, but really important to give up when trying to be attentive to those we love.

Quality Time means enjoying each other, thinking about the future, remember the fun times in the past, and making wonderful present day memories.

Quality Time with friends means talking on the phone for the only hour your kids are asleep (thank you Suzette for always listening and giving me great advice).

Quality Time means going out for tea and laughing so hard your cheeks and sides hurt (thank you Christy, I love your company and sense of humor).

Quality Time means meeting up for lunch and catching each other up on your lives, things you may not know because you don't see each other every day. (thanks Lisa, I love our lunch dates)

Quality Time means sitting on the couch and watching a chick flick with your sister til 12 am at night, eating popcorn, drinking hot cocoa and barely watching the movie because you are laughing so hard and talking, talking, talking. (I love you Sara, what would I do without you, my sister and best friend?)

Quality Time means meeting for prayer once a week and not having a time limit, sharing your heart, opening up, confessing your faults, asking for prayer for your family, walking for miles because the problem you have is still being worked on and solved and discussed with your friend...(Oh, Debi, I love our prayer times!)

Quality Time means visiting with a friend who just had a baby, and just sharing her joy. (Rayna, Liz, and Cinz, what an honor to see your babies be born and watch them grow! I love you guys and your little ones)

Quality Time shows the people you love that you are willing to sacrifice your time and spend it with them because they are important to you. So clear some of your schedule today to spend quality time with a loved one!


  1. I loved this post! I am a quality time girl... I think I am an all love languages kind of girl actually! I love you, Kristi, and love our talks!

  2. Ditto Suzette! What would I do without our texts throughout the day and our nap time talks?

  3. "Quality time means listening with your whole body"-VERY well said and SOOOO very true!! Reading this made me aware of how much REAL listening I really need to do!


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